So, here I am. After completing MBA, sitting in Milan wondering what to do next.
Well, I have a few people, really close to my heart going through turmoils in life. And I keep wondering, how to help them, what advise to give to them to help them cope up with the situation. And after all the time I have spent on thinking about this, I have come up with a brilliant answer. It is about you. It always has been, and always will be.
You keep wondering through these downs of your life, what have I done to deserve this, and how the hell will I get out of this unharmed and alive. Well, nothing really. Just concentrate on yourself.
People might love you, people might hate you. But what really matters is do you love yourself?
No one knows you better than you know yourself. So, is there really a need to change and be someone else? Nope. Your love for yourself will keep all the worries away. And when those big blocks come in your life to stop you from being happy, all you have to do is believe in yourself. And also remember, that nothing is permanent. Someone close to my heart reminded me this, when I was going through another difficult situation.
Your situation will get sorted out.
I will bore you and again repeat that no one knows you better than yourself. You know your weaknesses and you strengths. Sit down and take your own interview. Do you need this milestone to be achieved? If yes, you know where you are going wrong. Work on that. Will that make you look bad in front of people. It might, it might not. But does that matter? Friends and family, will love you no matter what happens. Real friends will definitely do.
We might think, just to fit in a certain group, to behave in a certain way. Being cool and popular is really not something you need to work on. You need to work on your goals. And once you achieve your goal, success, popularity, the "Cool" factor and everything you wish to achieve will be there. Patience and belief in yourself will take you there.
Love yourself. Others who matter will automatically love you. If that means, you have to be a bitch, go ahead. If that means you have to be obnoxious, be boring for some people. Do it. Being in IMT, there have always been the people I have disliked. And trust me, it gave me more stress than it probably did to to them. And then I had it all figured out. They are who they are. They have their own set of friends, and so do I. Then why waste time disliking someone? We are different people. Let's just agree to disagree and move on with our own lives. Today, I might not love everyone I have come across, but I do respect them for taking their own stand and being who they are. And you know how I have been able to do that? I love and respect myself. And now I see, that they are doing just the same. And that is how it is done my friends. And that is how you will achieve what you want to, and what you need to.
Don't be distracted by these little blocks in life. Jump over them or break them and move one. One goal after another. This is life. This was never supposed to be a smooth ride. At the end of the day, you have yourself. And when you realize that, there will be no relationship you need to validate yourself. Relationships are for support and love. Not for validation.
No one, no thing, no event can validate who you are as a person. Just believe in yourself, respect yourself.
My advice will not make your worries go away, but it sure will make your ride easier. Life is too short to waste it on worries. Change is inevitable. And only your belief in yourself will help you get through.
At the end of it all, if no one is standing next to you, you yourself will be there. You will not be alone.
Well, I have a few people, really close to my heart going through turmoils in life. And I keep wondering, how to help them, what advise to give to them to help them cope up with the situation. And after all the time I have spent on thinking about this, I have come up with a brilliant answer. It is about you. It always has been, and always will be.
You keep wondering through these downs of your life, what have I done to deserve this, and how the hell will I get out of this unharmed and alive. Well, nothing really. Just concentrate on yourself.
People might love you, people might hate you. But what really matters is do you love yourself?
No one knows you better than you know yourself. So, is there really a need to change and be someone else? Nope. Your love for yourself will keep all the worries away. And when those big blocks come in your life to stop you from being happy, all you have to do is believe in yourself. And also remember, that nothing is permanent. Someone close to my heart reminded me this, when I was going through another difficult situation.
Your situation will get sorted out.
I will bore you and again repeat that no one knows you better than yourself. You know your weaknesses and you strengths. Sit down and take your own interview. Do you need this milestone to be achieved? If yes, you know where you are going wrong. Work on that. Will that make you look bad in front of people. It might, it might not. But does that matter? Friends and family, will love you no matter what happens. Real friends will definitely do.
We might think, just to fit in a certain group, to behave in a certain way. Being cool and popular is really not something you need to work on. You need to work on your goals. And once you achieve your goal, success, popularity, the "Cool" factor and everything you wish to achieve will be there. Patience and belief in yourself will take you there.
Love yourself. Others who matter will automatically love you. If that means, you have to be a bitch, go ahead. If that means you have to be obnoxious, be boring for some people. Do it. Being in IMT, there have always been the people I have disliked. And trust me, it gave me more stress than it probably did to to them. And then I had it all figured out. They are who they are. They have their own set of friends, and so do I. Then why waste time disliking someone? We are different people. Let's just agree to disagree and move on with our own lives. Today, I might not love everyone I have come across, but I do respect them for taking their own stand and being who they are. And you know how I have been able to do that? I love and respect myself. And now I see, that they are doing just the same. And that is how it is done my friends. And that is how you will achieve what you want to, and what you need to.
Don't be distracted by these little blocks in life. Jump over them or break them and move one. One goal after another. This is life. This was never supposed to be a smooth ride. At the end of the day, you have yourself. And when you realize that, there will be no relationship you need to validate yourself. Relationships are for support and love. Not for validation.
No one, no thing, no event can validate who you are as a person. Just believe in yourself, respect yourself.
My advice will not make your worries go away, but it sure will make your ride easier. Life is too short to waste it on worries. Change is inevitable. And only your belief in yourself will help you get through.
At the end of it all, if no one is standing next to you, you yourself will be there. You will not be alone.
